The best, most justifiable divorce is hell. It goes downhill from there in a big hurry. Which is why I admire people who can negotiate that hell with honor, justice and equity. To do that, of course, requires one thing above all else: We cannot allow our sadness to arc into vengeance. A divorce is a funeral. Not a war. The work of divorce is grief. Not poisoning wells. Not … [Read more...]
Don’t kid yourself: Divorce is forever
Jay Haley (1923-2007) is amongst my heroes in my chosen profession. I’ve read everything he’s ever written. I traveled to hear him speak. He was brilliant. And I’d like to sorta quote him now. ‘Sorta quote’ means I can’t remember the exact quote, but the gist is: “Divorce might be legally possible, but it might not be actually impossible. You just end up adding another … [Read more...]